The Bagg Group on how to get over rejection


When you think of it, running for President and not getting the job is the most public of rejections.  No matter how brave a face you put on it, it’s got to hurt.

At least when the rest of us don’t get hired, we can choose to tell people, “I didn’t want it anyway.”  In fact, we don’t even have to talk about our job hunt with those who don’t give us support.

Still, whether we keep the news to ourselves or not, we all suffer the sting of not being chosen.

At The Bagg Group, we place people in full-time positions, contract work, and temporary placements with the best companies in the GTA.  However, we typically refer more than one candidate to our clients, so for everyone who gets the job, someone else didn’t – this time.

Still, with more than 40+ years of experience in staffing, we can confirm the truth in the saying, “When a door closes, a window opens.”

But that doesn’t mean we don’t know that rejection hurts. And that pain can be real.  University of Michigan research shows the same part of the brain that’s activated when we have physical pain is also activated when we experience rejection.

However, the intensity of the pain depends on how terrible we feel about the rejection.

At The Bagg Group, we don’t believe that not getting chosen for the job is the same as being “rejected” in the typical sense of the word.  Our expert recruiters explain why:

Rejection is personal, not getting the job isn’t: For whatever reason, someone else had something in particular which the employer was looking for.   It’s not about you.

They could be wrong:  Hiring managers do their best with the information they have, but no one is right all the time. When you have to choose between several candidates, sometimes you choose the wrong person.  You can’t be too hard on the hiring manager though.  We all make choices about people in our daily lives, and all of us have been wrong, likely more than once.

They could be right:  You may have the best qualifications, the most appealing personality, and you may have been brilliant in your interview, but it could be that your working style would clash with a manager.  Some reasons why you don’t get hired are just unknowable to you.  But the hiring manager knows their company culture well, and they could be doing you a favour if they assess that you’d be unhappy in their company’s environment.  You don’t want a job in which you wouldn’t thrive. You may well have dodged a bullet.

You get a chance to do better next time:  Sometimes you don’t get the job, but you get a great learning experience from having gone through the interviews.  Consider it a practice run to helping you be more effective next time – and you’ll be all that much more impressive in the future.

No doesn’t mean no, it can mean ‘not now’:  We’ve seen it happen more times than we can count.  The candidate who didn’t get the job initially — and who took the news well — is contacted at some point in the future, either for the same position or another opportunity.  That’s why it’s critical to stay professional, upbeat, and courteous so that you don’t burn any bridges.

Sometimes you get the job, and sometimes you don’t.  It’s all part of the job-seeking process for everyone.  The only way to handle the disappointment is to keep going and to know that there is always a next time, because there is. The only people who don’t have a “next time” are those who give up.

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